“I’ve a habit of placing a happy-face or a frowny-face on my calendar, depending on what kind of day I’ve had.
Often I slap a droopy circle in the box, discouraged by the things I failed to accomplish and the unpleasant encounters endured. But then, invariably, a wise muse stops to ask me these three questions:
Did your children let you hug them today? Yes.
Did you do a kind deed for someone? Anyone? Yes.
Did God forsake you today? No.
Then, my dear, despite your challenges, it was a good day after all. Standing corrected, I twist that frowny-face upside down and smile.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, & Grumblings for Every Day of the Year
You cannot really know how to appreciate even the averagely okay days until you’ve had a bunch of really nasty ones — trust me, I know.
Your health’s perfect.
Your mood is perfect.
Your special someone’s doing everything perfectly well.
Your bank account’s perfect.
The project went perfectly well.
Everything’s looking pretty good.
You know those days?
This season in particular definitely has a lot of us in high spirits, which is, of course, amazing.
And I know we’re all excitedly looking forward to the new year and all its got down for us, and looking over the years and over all the good times and the bad in between.
And so today, I’ve decided to share five wisdoms that are personally super important for me to carry along every single time life is being pleasantly kind, and remembering them could go such a long long way every time!
1. You’re allowed to totally enjoy that moment — no matter how unbelievably relaxing it’s looking.
No matter how much you think you shouldn’t.
No matter how “too good” it feels.
Never, never, never let yourself get used to hardship that you’re actually not comfortable when things are comfortable.
It’s hard to relax for some of us.
And no, I’m not exempted.
For the last couple of days, I’ve been feeling better after a reslly crappy illness,yet I constantly kept having panic attacks and stressing and worrying about a relapse.
I’m learning that I can do so much better.
It’s so easy to think you need to be so on guard especially when you’ve been getting a lot of unpleasant surprises,but it’s so much easier to just bask in those good days.
Enjoy those smooth sailing days.
Relax. Take a longer nap. Savour that meal more slowly. Stop checking your phone every hour.
You deserve happiness.
You deserve fulfillment.
You deserve every good thing you can possibly get in this life.
Yes, things will not always be this rosy, but isn’t it more sensible to completely bask in the rosiness when it comes?
2. No. Everybody is not obliged to feel happy for you.
Don’t set yourself up for disappointment, people.
You know how deflated you get when you share a really big deal news and the response you get is like “okay. And?”
Then you go back home and for the rest of the day you’re wondering if you’re overexcited for nothing?
If it really is that big of a deal?
If you could drop into the earth for a few years?
Don’t do that to yourself.
When you stop expecting so much for others, you start to do so much more for yourself.
No one can feel what you feel like how you’re feeling it — don’t do that to yourself.
3. Sometimes, keep your good news.
Sometimes wait longer.
Sometimes, spread the word to less people.
You’re super excited, your butterflies are legit doing the happy dance, your insides are bubbling, you’re feeling ecstatic — still, don’t pour it out at everyone’s feet.
Everyone isn’t happy you’re happy.
Everyone doesn’t like it.
People still do that silly thing called comparison, called jealousy, called spite.
And sharing your happy moments with the wrong person? Not a good idea.
Even in all the excitement, take precautions.
Don’t give so much details, don’t plaster it all over the place.
Easy on social media — don’t be doing too much, mo matter how much is happening.
4. You are not responsible for someone else’s day that isn’t going as well as yours — unless you’re responsible.
Yup, it’s a pretty good time to show some act of kindness or to lend a helping hand to someone else.
Yes, be there for that beautiful friend that’s hurting, do the best you can to be a support system, but at the end of the day, the only one who can help one, is one’s own self.
Each and every one of us is responsible for our own problems, and so anyone that’s trying to make their problem solely yours just because you seem to have strong or capable shoulders, is wrong.
There is only so much you can do for others at the end of the day.
5. It’s not too early to start counting your blessings for the days you won’t be able to see them quite clearly.
That’s how you comfort yourself on those really tough days.
It wouldn’t automatically make those days easier, no.
Do you have any new year resolutions yet?
The very first at the top of my list already is to document down every day one thing I’m super grateful for, starting from January 1st.
The other day I was going through my journal and it brought back so many amazing memories and it showed me how blessed I have gotten over the years.
On the rainy days, it’s so tough to see any good,so start counting when the sun is high up.
Have you been having an amazing holiday this year?
Did 2016 hit you with something massive too?
Let’s talk through the comments section!
So, I honestly cannot believe 2016 is almost over and school is starting in less than a week for me (and no, I’m so not ready for college life! Help!)
I can’t wait to bring massive changes to this blog in 2017 (turning this into something more serious, officially going to start accepting guest posts and plenty more!)
What are you looking forward to do in the new year?
You’d be off to a good start if you begin to do those little work on them from right now and not waiting till January 2017!
Thank you so much for sharing 2016 with me, darling reader — and a happy, splendid, magical new year in advance.
Deliciously Yours To Savour,
Ima | LemonsLemonade.com.